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According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, a pathological liar is “a person who lies compulsively usually for no external gain or benefit and often with detrimental consequences.” A person who is a pathological liar will fabricate a complete falsification which is typically overreaching and complicated. What sets most of us apart from pathological liars is the fact that a pathological liar is provoked by a chronic tendency to tell lies.The person who is lying is usually aware they are lying, while other pathological liars may actually convince themselves that they are telling the truth. Pathological liars are not provoked by any kind of social pressure.My take is that pathological lying is a disorder of identity; the person imagines for himself an separate identity, and then fantasizes experiences and events which may be otherwise ordinary and predictable-- he went to the museum-- but in his mind happen only to "that" person.The lies hold the clues to that identity, but they may not be obvious.Mainly because I have recently discovered I am one.
The time and effort I invested in trying to catch him lying actually killed all my feelings for him. Pathological liars are often disconnected with reality.He doesn't need to be in the military to know what it's like, because he's watched enough war movies (e.g. (Aside: that's the huge appeal of Clancy and Crichton-- enough detail to make you think you know the inner workings of the professions they describe.) It's wrong to dismiss the lies as valueless; like Zelig, these people have an intuitive grasp of the relevant thought process, emotions, affects, and even consequences of the experiences they describe. So when he gets caught in his lie, he secretly blames the other person for not appreciating that whether it's a lie or not is trivial, irrelevant; it still him just the same.------------------ (It would be interesting to study whether (true) pathological liars are able to provide a better "profile" of criminals, heads of state, etc, than professional profilers, and what supplementary factors might improve the accuracy of the profile.("Here are some videos/documents on Vladimir Putin. Then, go out to dinner with this beautiful blonde ex-FSB agent and see if you come up with any further insights.") I suspect also that pathological liars would more predictably pass the new f MRI lie detectors; these detect binary lies ("are you this or are you not this? I think I know how the test procedure can be altered to pick this up; but I also think I know how these tests can be reliably beaten.For example, maybe the part of the lie that's important isn't that he saw a guy rob the gift shop and get arrested, but that he was at the -- the point is that he imagines himself a loner, or an artsy type, etc.Or maybe he's sees himself living in a world where crimes happen frequently. The pathological liar doesn't place much value in experience; it's all in identification.